Written by Charlotte Hunter
Over my time at university, I’ve spoken to a handful of people who have had to experience a long distance romantic relationship. Whilst some have failed, 3 years later, some are closer than ever. For me, it just means that those that didn’t make it, obviously were not in love enough with one another to make it work. If you are in love you will always find a way to keep that flame burning.
This is not to dismiss the fact that long distance relationships are easy. Here are some tips to hopefully keep your relationship solid.
Don’t talk to each other every second of the day
Although communication is the factor that drives a long distance relationship, too much communication can be a bad thing. It will leave you running out of stuff to talk about. If you talk all the time and one of you doesn’t reply for some time this could trigger panic to what your partner is doing and getting up to. It’s best just to message each other at least 2 times a day depending on the conversation or scenario.
Don’t message at all or only once when on a night out on the town
So many arguments start when one half of the couple has gone on a night out with friends and this is simply due to the fact that the partner doesn’t not trust you, but the people that could be out in the town. Whilst they trust you, they have no idea what the intentions of a complete stranger are and can’t bare the fact of you getting chatted up whilst you might not even be aware you are.
Drunk texts are never a good idea either as they leave the partner at home in floods of worry about whether or not you’ll get home ok.
i miss my boyfriend so much and it makes me uncomfortable that he’s partying at a university w/o me🙁
— bαiley (@baileyversluis) November 5, 2016
Don’t lose sight of who you are just because you met a new group of friends at university.
University is a place where people take the advantage of their independence away from their normal lifestyles. Some students completely change at university losing who they once were, just to fit in with a particular set of people to be deemed ‘cool’. This has caused me to witness many a break up as the other half claims ‘You’ve changed’.
Mix it up.
Instead of messaging make sure you see each other on facetime or skype at least twice a week just to refresh yourself on how good-looking your other half is. It’s always good to spice things up by sending the odd racey text too (#sendnudes).
Remind your partner how much you mean to them by sending them little gifts.
It doesn’t have to be a rolex watch or the latest top notch fragrance, little gestures such as flowers or cards can go long way to remind someone how much they mean to you.
Plan weekend breaks away
This gives you a chance to look forward to something together after so much time apart. Like romantic relationships, keeping close with family members is important:
I want to go home, I acc miss my mum and brother. University is just so long and draining 😭
— 🌺 (@temmmi_) March 17, 2017
Keep them updated with your university projects
Let them know about your latest project! Lets be honest, everyone at university has their own projects to worry about so offload on your parents instead of your friends as they have an outsider’s outlook on what happens at university.
Ask for advice
Because none knows best like your mum and dad!
Visit them for special occasions such as birthdays, mother’s day, father’s day, and obviously Christmas!
These holidays are a great way to break up university time and remind you that family really is the most precious thing in the world.
Like romantic relationships, Facetime at least once a week.
Sometimes it’s nice to see your families on Facetime rather than catching up over text.
With these tips in mind you’re sure to have an easier ride at coping with relationships at university. If you have any top tips be sure to send them over to firstname.lastname@example.org
Hey, your relationship can’t be as long as these twos: